Have you ever wondered what people would say about your life when you pass into eternity? Well, what they say about you then depends on the choices you make now. We can only hope that no one ever again has a similar obituary written about them like in this next example. In what amounts up to be arguably the most honest defamation of character of all time, a daughter wrote the most brutal obituary about her abusive father last month. She wrote:
“Leslie Ray “Popeye” Charping was born in Galveston on November 20, 1942 and passed away on Janurary 30, 2017, which was 29 years longer than expected, and much longer than he deserved. Leslie battled with cancer in his latter years and lost his battle, ultimately due to being the horses a** that he was ultimately known for. At a young age, Leslie became a model example of bad parenting combined with mental illness, and a complete commitment to drinking, drugs, womanizing and being generally offensive. Leslie enlisted to join in the Navy, but not in a brave and patriotic sort of way, but more so as part of a plea deal to escape sentencing on criminal charges. Leslie was surprisingly intelligent, however he lacked ambition and motivation to be anything more than being reckless, wasteful, squandering the family savings and fantasizing about get rich quick schemes. Leslie’s hobbies included being abusive to his family, expediting trips to Heaven for the family pets and fishing, which he was less likely skilled than previously mentioned. Leslie’s life served no obvious purpose, he did not contribute to society, or serve his community, and he possessed no redeeming qualities besides quick whited sarcasm which was amusing during his sober days. With Leslie’s passing he will be missed only for what he never did; being a loving father, husband, and a good friend. No services will be held, there will be no prayers for eternal peace, and no apologies to the family he tortured. Leslie’s remains will be cremated and kept in a barn until “Ray” the family donkey’s wood shavings run out. Leslie’s passing proves that evil does in fact die and hopefully marks a time for healing and safety for all.”
This arbitrary went viral on numerous online platforms, and as you can imagine a lot of people chimed in with their opinion regarding the decision to publish such an obituary. After all, has she lost all respect for the dead? In defending her action, Leslie’s daughter responded with another brutal and honest reply to her critics. She wrote this:
I wrote my father’s obituary. I loved my father because he was my father and his passing would not have been any less difficult had he been a good father. As someone that ‘hated a liar,’ I believe even he would have appreciated the honesty. I apologize to anyone that my father hurt, and I felt it would have been offensive to portray him as anything other than who he was. This obituary was intended to help bring closure because not talking about domestic violence doesn’t make it go away! Thank you to those that have offered sincere condolences, understanding, and prayers for our family, your words bring comfort. I am happy for those that simply do not understand; this means you had good parent(s) — please treasure what you have. Although I appreciate everyone’s concern, it would have been much more appreciated at any time during my childhood. For those being cruel, please remember that you now resemble my father and I would be more than happy to pen your obituary as well.
I wholeheartedly appreciate the honesty here; we have to call out things that are broken and evil if we are going to receive healing and deliverance. While no person is perfect and we all make mistakes, this is a reminder that to humble oneself is not weakness, but strength. Furthermore, some of the most beautiful moments in life are when we ask for forgiveness and seek reconciliation when we fail to live to our eternal values, convictions, and character. In light of eternity and for the sake of leaving a Godly legacy, it is worth our time in gold to seek forgiveness and reconciliation as long as we’re alive.